Thursday, July 24, 2008

Can a relationship work when you hardly see each other?



If their daily schedule are so different that they barely get to be together - if they practically pass by each other in their cars to and from work - what will it do their relationship?... Can this kind of arrangement doom a relationship to failure?

Missing connections
Statistics emphasize that the on-the-job demands on time and more intense.
Statistics also show that many marriages where both spouses work end in separation, or fizzle out like a can of soda gone stale.
It's not that you don't love each other - you do, but things get in the way: career ambition, financial necessity, love for your job. And when any or all of those things require that you have a schedule so different from your loved one that you only get to see each other for a brief moment every day, you find that your bonds are wearing thin.

Taking the time
You don't need to be a relationship expert to know that having time for one another - and for the intimate moments as a couple - is vital in a marriage.
That way we enjoy this free time together without recriminations. When we get home after a fun outing we both enjoyed, it puts us in the mood for each other.
Quality time is well and good, but the amount of time we spend together is crucial. We cannot deny that "time deficit" is a problem that will not go away.

Basic Needs In Relationships
If you have been involved in emotionally abusive relationships, you may not have a clear idea of what a healthy relationship is like.

• The need for good will from others
• The need for emotional support
• The need to be heard by the other and to be responded to with respect and
acceptance
• The need to have your own view, even if others have a different view
• The need to have your feelings and experience acknowledged as real
• The need to receive a sincere apology for any jokes or actions you find
offensive
• The need for clear, honest and informative answers to questions about what
affects you
• The need to for freedom from accusation, interrogation and blame
• The need to live free from criticism and judgment
• The need to have your work and your interests respected
• The need for encouragement
• The need for freedom from emotional and physical threat
• The need for freedom from angry outbursts and rage
• The need for freedom from labels which devalue you
• The need to be respectfully asked rather than ordered
• The need to have your final decisions accepted
• The need for privacy at times

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