SEX vs LOVE

You might have heard it already, from a guy you know. It’s a line that goes something like this:1. “If you love me, you’ll have sex with me.”
2. “I love you, I just want to show you how I feel.”
3. “If we love each other, there’s nothing wrong with it.”
4. “Sex is natural.”

At one time or another, most girls hear some version of one of those lines. But guess what?
None of them mean you have to sex with someone—even if you are truly, madly, deeply in
love with that person! Love and sex are two different things! Love and Sex are not the same thing. Love is an emotion or a feeling. There is no one definition of love because the word “love” can mean many different things to many different people. Sex, on the other hand, is a biological event. Even though there are different kinds of sex, most sexual act have certain things in common. Sex can be intercourse, or it can be something that does not involve penetration, such as oral sex.


Here are just a few of the differences between love and sex:· Love is a feeling (emotional).
· There is no exact “right” definition of love for everybody.
· Love involves feeling of romance and/or attraction.
· Love does not necessarily have to include, or lead to, sexual activity.
· Sex is an event or act (physical).
· Sex can lead to sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).
· Sex can make two people feel closer, but it can also hurt, or cause two people to feel farther apart.
· Sex proves nothing.
· On its own, sex means nothing.

Should you have sex? So what if you’re in love, and you think it’s the real deal…should you have sex? Nobody—not even the person you’re in love with—can answer this question for you. You have to think about your own personal values and feelings.
You teenage years bring a lot of changes in how you feel about yourself, family, and potential love interests—even if you don’t think about sex. No matter what your feelings on sex are, it may be smart to wait until something “feels right.” And even then, it’s a good idea to wait a month or two.
If it’s truly love, and it’s meant to be, it will survive and even grow stronger without sex. If it isn’t, then you will be really glad you waited and found that out, before you got intimately involved on a physical level.

Ways to express love without sex:
There are millions of non-sexual ways to show someone you care about them. You can show a person you care for them by spending time with them. Go to the movies. Or just hang out and talk. If you are with someone you really like, then anything can be fun.
There are other ways to feel physically close without having sex too. These ways include everything from kissing and hugging to touching and fondling each other. Just remember that if you’re not careful, these activities can lead to sex.
Some activities that aren’t sex can also lead to STD’s, so educate yourself and be aware of the risks.
Plan beforehand just how far you want to go, and sticks to your limits. It can be difficult to say no and mean it when things get hot and heavy, so make sure you have a plan for how you’ll handle that kind of situation.